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Things are finally getting a bit "normal" here at home now. Yesterday I finally bit the bullet and started cleaning Nanny's room. This was to be my "Coca-Cola" guest room and then we needed to move Nanny here to our house. I am very hesitant to start with the decorating again because I may be moving Mama over here sooner rather than later. It seems that both my husband and Mama are dealing with depression. With my husband, it is making his dementia worsen. Mama is sleeping a lot. This week will have me making more doctor visits with them. I am in the process of writing notes to give to the receptionists so that the doctors will read them and I won't have to "tell things about them" in their presence. I found that this approach is so very helpful. Halloween is fast approaching. I'm actually getting a bit excited about it for the first time in several years. I won't decorate again this year but I have high hopes for next year!! I do love Halloween and Christmas! Jamie A Kitchen Window to the Worldby Mary Emma AllenMy mom enjoyed gazing out a window while washing dishes and recalled the window of her childhood above the pantry sink. For years she bemoaned the fact that, in our farmhouse kitchen, she only had a wall to stare at. So one day my dad hauled saw and other tools into the kitchen, bought a window with four panes, and installed it above our kitchen sink. It did brighten the large kitchen and helped make washing the dishes for six family members and hired man an easier task...for Mother, and for Sister and me. Window to the World That became Mother's "window to the world". It looked out to the brook that ran between the house and barn. Beyond the barn were a corn field, pasture, and woodland. The scenery was ever changing, depending on the time of day and year. Glimpsing deer at late afternoon grazing in that pasture adjacent to the woodland was a time of excitement for us children. This almost became a daily ritual looking for the white tailed deer moving slowly across the pasture as they grazed. Windows in Later Years Even after she developed Alzheimer's, Mother looked out the window of the house where she then lived and went back in time to the scene from her farmhouse kitchen, even though she was no longer there. It took me awhile to figure out what she was talking about when Mother told me she saw the cows coming to the barn or the deer near the woods when neither were outside this kitchen window. Then I realized she was talking about the window of my childhood and we both reminisced over a cup of tea, providing us a happy occasion. My Kitchen Window Wherever my husband live, even though we have a dishwasher and I don't spend so much time at the kitchen sink, I still want a window. I like to gaze at the woods around my home, see my grandchildren playing in the yard, watch the birds flitting around, or look at trees budding in spring and changing color in autumn. A window above the sink becomes the heritage of women who spend time in their kitchen. Mine encompasses memories of my childhood and of my mother who wanted her window to the world. Mary Emma Allen, (c)2002 Mary Emma Allen is a columnist, children's writer, book
author, travel writer, and writing teacher. She often writes
family nostalgia and inspirational pieces. After recovering
from a broken back and spending time in a body cast, she has
tried to use her writing talent to encourage others. Telling Talesby Mary C. Fridley RN, COne of the most dreaded tasks for caregivers is the trip to the doctor. The scenario goes something like this: Appointment made; Mom forgets appointment; Mom refuses to go; it's all down hill from there. For weeks she has had various complaints, but on the day of the appointment, she denies any discomfort and wonders where you got that idea. After much cajoling you finally get her into the car and you're off. The office wait is long and Mom becomes restless frequently asking why she's there. Finally you get to see the doctor and feel like your mission's been accomplished. WRONG! The doctor greets Mom with " How are you?" and she replies, "Just fine". Every time you try to interject with a comment, Mom glares at you and denies what you're saying. You hesitate to say more for fear of being a tattletale and causing a scene. After a quick physical exam and renewal of prescriptions you're out the door in 12 minutes. Stressed and tired, you realize you left without having your questions answered and feel like it was all a waste of time. So how can you prevent this from happening again? Plan ahead. Here are some tips that are helpful:
Healthcare visits are very important but tend to be rushed. With good planning and organization they'll go smoothly and be less stressful for both you and your loved one. Mary C. Fridley RN, C is a Registered Nurse board certified in gerontology with more than twenty years experience in the geriatric health field. She provides community workshops and motivational seminars on caregiver, eldercare, and aging issues as well as writes articles and caregiver advice columns for websites and publications. Mary will be glad to answer any questions you have and can be reached at P.O. Box 573 Riva, MD 21140, or by email: geroresources@hotmail.com. Communicating with the person with dementiaAlzheimer Scotland - Action on DementiaCommunication is a very complex process and it is not surprising that many communication skills are lost when someone has dementia. Expression and understanding are both affected. Some skills of expression are well preserved whilst other aspects are considerably impaired. Although individual people who have dementia will differ in how their language and communication skills are affected, there are often similarities in their losses. How communication is affected
Knowing when to reply is not affected at first, but the person will tend to say things which relate to him or herself rather than respond to what has been said. This makes the person appear uninterested in what others are saying. He or she may fail to pick up humour or sarcasm or subtle messages. What the person has to say is most affected. In the early stage topics are fewer and the person does not try to explain original thoughts or insights. He or she may speak less and conversation is dull. Later he or she cannot keep to the topic and becomes vague and rambling. He or she may speak more but begins to make less sense. Messages are repeated. Less and less is communicated. In the late stages the person may say almost nothing, or keep repeating only one or two phrases or sounds which make no sense. Generally it is the automatic language skills, for example responses such as 'hello', which are said without thinking which are retained for the longest time. Aspects of communication which require careful thought are soon lost. How you can help When we speak to someone with dementia we must try to send messages which he or she will understand. This can be difficult because problems with understanding are harder to spot than problems with expression. The response of the person to what you say can indicate if he or she have understood. The person's ability to communicate should give you a good idea of the level at which to pitch a conversation. It can help if you are guided by a few rules.
It is possible, of course, that a problem with communication is caused by a hearing problem. If you suspect this, arrange for the person to see their GP. A speech therapist can give professional help with communication. Ask your GP or hospital consultant about this. Sometimes people think that if the person with dementia does not understand then it is all right to talk about him or her in his or her presence, or believe that even if the person does grasp something of what is being said, he or she will forget about it in five minutes. Both ideas are wrong. Body language and gesture is likely to be understood and so the person with dementia will be aware of being talked about even if he or she cannot grasp the meaning. This can be upsetting. It is also possible that he or she will continue to feel angry or upset long after forgetting the original reason. In company, conversation becomes much more difficult to follow. People talk quickly or talk at the same time, and the person with dementia is soon lost and feeling isolated. Generally, it is best to avoid large groups but encourage visits from old friends and members of the family. Contact the 24 hour Dementia Helpline if there is a communication problem you want to talk about. Our trained volunteers may be able to help, or if the problem is complex, can get advice from our speech therapy advisor. Thanks to Sandra Walker, Speech Therapist, for commenting on this information sheet. Alzheimer Scotland - Action on Dementia LinksHelpguide: Your Web Gateway to the Issues and Options for Mental Health and Aging Well Helpguide provides user-friendly mental health resources and information,
including sources of help for mental and emotional problems,
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provides user-friendly information about Southern California
resources for mental and emotional problems, substance abuse,
Alzheimer's and Dementia, caring for the elderly, and healthy
aging I was just channel surfing this morning, and I found a story CNN was running on Leeza Gibbons and her mom, who has Alzheimer's. Here's the news story that goes along with the TV appearance: CNN.com - Leeza Gibbons takes on new, difficult role - Oct. 17, 2002 The 'health correspondent' said a couple interesting things:
According to the site, they're going to run the spot at the following times: WATCH BIOFEEDBACK ON HEADLINE NEWS From kevin@theribbon.comIf you go to the Cigna web site and click on the pink ribbon, Cigna will donate $1.00 to fight breast cancer. Only good the month of October, pass it on to everyone! Click on the pink ribbon at: http://www.cignafoundation.org Email BagFrom AZUREE1650@aol.comThank
you for a very informative newsletter! The topic on incontinence
was excellent. Although I have been at that stage for
approximately six months now, it was most helpful in
understanding the issues caretakers and, those our loved ones
face. From BigtreeMur@aol.comI see you
used one of my articles. I appreciate the reference to my page
and as always, your web site does a real service. I have been
going through one of those years with family members spread all
over the country and being the only one with the time to do
duties. From CGlaughter@aol.comThanks so much for including me in "Before I Forget." I
loved it. I have so much I want to say to other's about early
onset Alzheimer's Disease. We need to be heard and we can be of
help by sharing with others. Thanks for making this possible. Chip Gerber From me.allen@juno.comI'm one of those former caregivers (of a mom and aunt with Alzheimer's) who is more involved than ever with Alzheimer's since Mother and Auntie are gone. I'm doing more writing and more speaking about this disease. I hope that what I learned in caring for them will help others as they care for a family member. Mary Emma Allen Hugs and
Peace,
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